Tuesday, January 31, 2012

FIXING UP MY "LINKS" PAGE

Hurray!  I finally got around to it!  I fixed up my links page so that the links are all in working order and if you click on the page you have a quick description of each link so you know what you are getting into once you click it.  Why wasn't this done before, you ask?  Because I am lazy, lazy, lazy! 

Some of the links' URLs are not self explanatory and knowing what each of them is required me to click on them and do an assessment of what you would find so I could write up a little blurb.  Previously, I wasn't prepared to do that, so you had to take the luck of the draw if you clicked on them before today. 

So "high 5" guys, no more mystery now.  It's all explained and all at your finger tips.  Each one of the websites I have listed is useful and valuable when it comes to finding information and support in regard to your high conflict divorce.  I will continue to update the page as I go forward.

Monday, January 30, 2012

THE SHENKMAN CASE

I can't help but notice recently, how much attention my blog on the The Shenkman Case is receiving.  This is a case where this gentleman burned down two of the marital homes and then took his wife hostage and threatened to kill her. 


I know that my tone in this blog is rather edgy and this may shock some people.  I think readers and even I sense in myself this feeling of anarchy that underlies the discussion in this posting.  Some of this arises from the intensity of the emotions I have experienced during my divorce combined with the strict discipline which I am required to exercise over those emotions.  Sometimes, I can't help but let lose verbally.


I think that the edginess in this blog also arises from a feeling of frustration at the legal system that simply fails to respond in the face of crisis and does not protect people who truly need help.  At the same time, it places burdens on mentally fragile individuals who are unable to handle those burdens, and the result is often tragic for everyone involved, particularly the children. 


I also acknowledge in this blog how angry people are, not only at the system, but also at themselves and often at their former spouses who are often perceived as the source of their suffering.  I have listened to a good many people express their wish that the other party, the ex wife or the ex husband would simply die a slow and painful death. 


Under the circumstances, it is amazing to me that people show such restraint and act appropriately when deep down they wish to do otherwise.  In many respects, this self restraint is an act of courage. 


Finally, I think that the edgy tone of this blog could lead people to misinterpret what I am saying.  Under no circumstances does this blog in any way condone violence.