THE SHENKMAN CASE

I can't help but notice recently, how much attention my blog on the The Shenkman Case is receiving.  This is a case where this gentleman burned down two of the marital homes and then took his wife hostage and threatened to kill her. 


I know that my tone in this blog is rather edgy and this may shock some people.  I think readers and even I sense in myself this feeling of anarchy that underlies the discussion in this posting.  Some of this arises from the intensity of the emotions I have experienced during my divorce combined with the strict discipline which I am required to exercise over those emotions.  Sometimes, I can't help but let lose verbally.


I think that the edginess in this blog also arises from a feeling of frustration at the legal system that simply fails to respond in the face of crisis and does not protect people who truly need help.  At the same time, it places burdens on mentally fragile individuals who are unable to handle those burdens, and the result is often tragic for everyone involved, particularly the children. 


I also acknowledge in this blog how angry people are, not only at the system, but also at themselves and often at their former spouses who are often perceived as the source of their suffering.  I have listened to a good many people express their wish that the other party, the ex wife or the ex husband would simply die a slow and painful death. 


Under the circumstances, it is amazing to me that people show such restraint and act appropriately when deep down they wish to do otherwise.  In many respects, this self restraint is an act of courage. 


Finally, I think that the edgy tone of this blog could lead people to misinterpret what I am saying.  Under no circumstances does this blog in any way condone violence.